Let’s suppose you are divorced, or are in the process of a divorce. There’s just one little problem, sex has never been a weak point in your marriage. As a matter of fact, it probably has been the only constantly good part of the relationship.

What do you do?

You know that it would probably be the best thing to put him (or her) out of your mind for good and move on to getting your life back on track. But, how do you get those randy thoughts and desires for him (or her) to go away?

What makes it oh, so much more difficult is that he (or she) seems to be perfectly willing to continue the sex play on a casual basis, no strings or commitments, or recriminations involved.

Perhaps he was the first and only man with whom you were intimate. You’re comfortable with him, uncomfortable with the thought of being intimate with anyone else.

Perhaps she’s the only woman who ever really set you on fire. You’ve been obsessed with the physical relationship since the first day the two of you “did it.”

Perhaps you’re willing to accept the physical intimacy as affirmation that he (or she) still truly does love you even though the marriage has ended.

Could you? Should you? Would you?

Will sex with your ex cause you problems as you try to get on with your life? Perhaps you’ve already faced the situation and dealt with it. If so, are you happy with the decision you made?

Perhaps you’re facing the situation right now, and are wondering if you would regret making the wrong choice. Sexual intimacy, for women in particular, can be extremely degrading if it’s done for the wrong reasons.

The choices and decisions of consenting adults should be theirs alone. If it were only that simple…